{"id":4665,"date":"2022-10-04T01:59:24","date_gmt":"2022-10-04T01:59:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ourlearningjourney.sg\/?p=4665"},"modified":"2022-12-08T03:39:20","modified_gmt":"2022-12-08T03:39:20","slug":"how-to-raise-resilient-children","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ourlearningjourney.sg\/index.php\/2022\/10\/04\/how-to-raise-resilient-children\/","title":{"rendered":"3 ways to raise resilient children"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

By Bernice Gan<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We all desire to see our children display resilience and be able to recover or bounce back from challenges and setbacks in life. These challenges can include entering a new school, dealing with a different environment or coping with bullying. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Resilience develops when children experience challenges and learn to deal with them positively. Building resilience helps children not only deal with current everyday challenges, but also develop the basic skills and habits that will help them deal with challenges later in life, during adolescence and adulthood. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Resilience is important for children\u2019s mental health. Children with greater resilience are better able to manage stress, which is a common response to difficult events. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Resilient children are more likely to take healthy risks because they don\u2019t fear falling short of expectations. They push themselves to step outside of their comfort zones. This helps them reach their goals and solve problems independently. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So how can we help our children cultivate this? Here are the ABC<\/strong>s of resilience. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. <\/strong>Allow children to grow through difficult emotions and situations<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Photo by Unsplash \/ Chinh Le Duc<\/a> <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

When children cry, let them express their emotions instead of telling them, \u201cDon\u2019t cry\u201d. When they have calmed down, help them to process their emotions and understand why they were upset. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Avoid predicting, preventing and solving every little problem for our children. <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

When kids come to parents to solve their problems, the natural response is to lecture or explain. A better strategy is to ask questions. By bouncing the problem back to the child with questions, the parent helps the child think through the issue and come up with solutions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, if children face disappointment, such as not doing well on a test or if a friend says something unkind, talk with them about their feelings and brainstorm what they can do next time. Letting them go through uncomfortable feelings can help them work things out for themselves. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We can also teach them delayed gratification by nurturing the ability to wait and defer pleasure. Allow them to cultivate perseverance by not always giving them what they want immediately and letting them earn their rewards slowly. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When they learn to overcome small challenges, it helps build their resilience to face bigger setbacks. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Build a strong, nurturing relationship with your child<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Photo by Little Seeds Preschool <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Having positive adult-child relationships is key to raising resilient children. We may think of resilience as some kind of “inner strength” but what helps children through tough times is the presence of a supportive adult they can rely on.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Studies have shown that social support is associated with higher positive emotions<\/a>, a sense of personal control and predictability, self-esteem, motivation, optimism, and resilience. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some ways to build a loving relationship is to: <\/p>\n\n\n\n