By Anne Lau
“You do not have to be a mother to be a mother.” These words resonate deeply with me, and I believe they will with many others. Motherhood is not defined by biology alone. It is a role that can be embraced by anyone who loves, nurtures and sacrifices for a child. It’s impact reaches far beyond traditional family structures.
I am a mother—but not by blood.
To my adopted daughter of more than 20 years, I am “Laubu” —a term of endearment that fills my heart with joy and gratitude. It’s more than a nickname; it’s a symbol of the bond we’ve built and the love we share.
To my three foster children — a 3-year-old boy I cared for over a year (now 9), a 15-year-old girl who stayed with me for five months (now 21), and a 4-year-old girl who lived with me for eight years and just reunited with her family last month (now 13) — I am “Auntie Anne”
And to hundreds of children I’ve had the privilege of nurturing as Principal of Little Seeds Preschool (Praiseland) over the last two decades, I am “Miss Anne.”
I’ve been blessed with a family that extends far beyond blood ties.
A journey of love and learning
My journey as an adoptive and foster mother has been a blessing and a learning experience.
Since adopting my daughter 29 years ago and fostering children for the past eight years, I’ve come to understand that children are precious gifts—cherished by God and by those of us lucky enough to raise them.
In the beginning, I asked God for just a few children to love. But He had greater plans. He entrusted me with many more than I could have imagined. My daughter has been my greatest support, encouraging me to step out in faith and reminding me daily that every child in our care deserves love and respect.
My foster children have also taught me to learn to let go and let God. It is always a bittersweet feeling when they return to their families. While I am happy for them, as their caregiver, I also feel worried. But I trust that God will take care and protect them.
A labour of love
On Mother’s Day, we celebrate all the incredible women who embody care, strength, and selflessness. A mother is a symbol of devotion, a source of emotional support, wisdom, guidance, and protection for her children. Whether you’re a biological mother, adoptive or foster parent, teacher, caregiver, or mentor—you play a vital role in a child’s life by providing physical and emotional care, teaching life skills and values, and being a role model as they grow up into their teenage years.
Motherhood is a calling that requires heart and hard work. It is made up of early mornings, long nights, countless sacrifices, and immeasurable patience. We put our children’s needs before their own, often going above and beyond to ensure their happiness and success.
But it’s also filled with joy, laughter, and the quiet, powerful moments that shape the future of those we nurture.
As I have journeyed through motherhood, I have come to realize that it is not just about providing for my children’s physical needs but also about nurturing their emotional and spiritual well-being. It’s about being present, being a listener, a guide, a protector, and a source of unwavering love. It’s about celebrating the small victories, supporting them through setbacks, and helping them learn from their failures and grow into their fullest selves.
Educators are mothers too
On this special day, we must also recognise the remarkable educators in our preschool community. Your dedication, patience, and love for teaching make a lasting impact on the lives of our children.
You do more than instruct—you inspire. You are not just educators; you’re role models, mentors, and caregivers. You are shaping young minds, fostering curiosity, and nurturing growth.
Thank you for all that you do to support our children and families and for pouring your hearts into the children you serve. You are making a difference in their lives, and we are grateful for your presence in our community.
A mother’s love knows no bounds
As I reflect on my journey as a mother, I am reminded that motherly love knows no bounds. It is not limited to biological ties; it extends to adoptive, foster, and caregiver relationships. It is a love that is unconditional, sacrificial, and transformative. It is a love that has shaped my life and built my character. And it is a love that I am grateful to be a part of, not just as a mother but also as a recipient of that love from all my children.
To every woman who has mothered a child—in any capacity—Happy Mother’s Day. Your love, care, and devotion are seen and appreciated. Thank you for being the heart of your family and community.
And to the educators, caregivers, and role models who give so much of themselves to raise the next generation—thank you for your tireless efforts. You are truly making a difference.
As we celebrate this day, let us honour all women who embody the spirit of motherhood. Your love is a gift to every child you touch.
To find out more about our preschools, visit https://littleseeds.edu.sg/.
Anne Lau is the Principal of Little Seeds Preschool (Praiseland)
